Makeover Introduction


I am so glad you decided to undertake this remarkable life upgrade process!

I assume that your decision to subscribe to this ground-breaking resource means you already know that integrity is arguably the most important form of intelligence that all of us need to upgrade during this time in history. This is not only because integrity deficits are at the core of what prevents us from feeling the level personal and relationship fulfillment that all of us want to experience. It is also because these deficits are a key source of what prevents us from co-creating solutions to the collective problems we face today in our communities, our countries and our planet.

Here is what you can look forward to:

  • If you are already familiar with my six-award-winning book, The New IQ: How Integrity Intelligence Serves You, Your Relationships and Our World, your lifetime membership will enable you to supercharge your ability to use that material to deepen your authenticity, create more vibrant collaborative and close relationships, and have a more positive and effective influence on the world around you.
  • If you are not yet familiar with that The New IQ book, access to all of that material is but one part of your lifetime membership.
  • Each of the ten Makeover modules you are about to complete combines specific sections in The New IQ book with corresponding self-evaluations and exercises from The New IQ workbook. This will enable you to develop a fully customized relationship with this material so you can bring it into your life in deeply personal, enlivening and effective ways.
  • Each Makeover module is divided into bite-size chunks. This will enable you to pace yourself well as you complete your makeover process, and it will minimize your chances of feeling overwhelmed by the massive amount of territory you are about to cover.
  • Your makeover is designed to enable you to outgrow old patterns that no longer support you and upgrade the seven core life skills that are the keys to becoming sustainably happy, effective, and successful — as an individual, in your relationships, and as some who has positive impact on the world around you in whatever ways are most important to you.

I believe the following three things are needed in order to spark the integrity revolution that we so desperately need today:

  1. Motivation: To spark an integrity revolution, our understanding of integrity must become more deeply personal and more profoundly practical than it has ever been. My most heartfelt hope is that this your makeover will do this for you in a deeply personal way.
  2. Vision: To create the new era of integrity that we all need individually and collectively, we need a new vision of human development, highest social good and leadership. You are about to discover how integrity is actually a very natural outgrowth of aligning the three core drives that we are born with.
  3. A System: The most efficient way to succeed with your makeover is to utilize a road-tested system that:
    a) Integrates personal, relationship and leadership/social responsibility development;
    b) Makes the upgrade process accessible to everyone; and
    c) Makes succeeding easier than ever before.

My study of how Natural Developers intuitively develop revealed the core life skills that make this possible: the Seven WisePassions (teachability, self-care, discernment, harvesting, power, synergy and stewardship). Studying Natural Developers has taught me that the secrets to healthy authenticity, connection and impact are one and the same.

Making integrity personal and practical begins with appreciating that your three Core Drives for authenticity, connection and impact live at the center of your spirit, your life, and your capacity to love. You are a three dimensional being, a 3D Self. A 3D Self is one-third authenticity, one-third connection and one-third impact. In other words, being a 3D Self means living in integrity with all three of your core drives. Being a 3D Self living in 3D Integrity is what 3D Living is all about. And this is what the makeover you are about to begin is designed to enable you to achieve.

There are three core aspects of integrity that correspond with your three core drives: self-integrity, relationship integrity and collective/societal integrity.

  • Self-integrity means being true to yourself. This is the essence of authenticity.
  • Relationship integrity means connecting and co-creating with others through compassion and respect, and through being true to your commitments to others. This is the essence of love and collaboration.
  • Collective (or societal) integrity means doing what serves collective highest good. Leadership integrity is nothing more – and nothing less – than embodying 3D Integrity in whichever leadership roles and contexts most resonate for you. This is the essence of having a positive impact in the world in whatever spheres of influence you feel called upon to help with.

Together, personal, relationship and collective integrity combine to create 3D integrity. You are about to develop a clearer, fuller, more practical, more action-oriented, and more personal understanding of integrity than you probably have ever had. And you are about to discover why 3D integrity is the key to sustainable happiness, health, and success.

Because integrity and fulfillment are inseparable, I believe that all of us have an obligation to ourselves to outgrow what blocks us from living in 3D Integrity and upgrading the seven core life skills necessary for embodying 3D Integrity. What blocks us is our Childhood Survival Plan and the Adulthood Redemption Plan this spawned in us. What makes 3D Living possible is the seven core life skills that I have come to refer to as our Seven WisePassions.

The makeover you are about to undergo has put all of this together perhaps for the very first time. Your subscription has put at your fingertips a complete system for upgrading your integrity in ways that can make you far more successful at attaining the fulfillment you seek, through  combining who you truly are, with becoming more capable of enjoying nourishing and productive relationships with others, and all while making a more positive difference in the world than you may have ever done.

You are about to unlock the secrets to integrating your personal development, relationship intelligence, leadership effectiveness, and social responsibility activities in a truly efficient and effective way.

Your first Makeover module enables you to take a close look at your relationship with each of your Three Core Drives. Your second module takes you through a series of self-assessments and exercises designed to provide you with a complete portrait of the automated patterns you will benefit from outgrowing: your Childhood Survival Plan and the Adulthood Redemption Plan this led to. During the remainder of your makeover will focus on upgrading the core life skills that are responsible for healthy sustainable happiness, wellbeing, love, success and leadership.

My heartfelt hope is that this step-by-step process will enable you to create a significantly better life: the life you have most wanted to live!


After your introduction to each of the ten makeover modules, you will get access to a portion of The New IQ book that corresponds with that module. This reading provides you with the conceptual grounding that will enable you to get the most from the self-evaluations and exercises that will follow. These resources are designed to enable you to apply to yourself and your life the material you are learning. I also want to encourage you to use the interactive forum that is part of your membership, to dialogue with your fellow members about your self-evaluations, your reactions to what you read, the discoveries you make through the exercises, and the life upgrades you make as a result of completing each module.

There are four ways to do your makeover:

  1. On your own
  2. With the fellowship of your fellow members through this website’s Makeover Mutual Support Forum
  3. As a member of a 3D Integrity Circle;
  4. With the group or individual assistance of a helping professional trained to be a Makeover Facilitator.

If You Are Doing an Integrity Makeover With the Assistance of an Integrity Makeover Facilitator: Make sure your Facilitator receives a copy of your completed module at least two business days before your next session, when the two of you will review that module. This will enable him/her to better assist you during your Makeover session. You can most conveniently do this by e-mail or snail mail. If you and your Facilitator agree to handle this by e-mail, your Facilitator will send you each module as a Word file so that you can fill in the self-assessments and exercises and then e-mail the module back to her/him. If you and your Facilitator agree to do this by fax or snail mail, simply fax, or copy and mail, the completed module to him/her in time for him/her to receive it at least two business days before your next session. Should you need any clarifications in order to complete the exercises please contact your Facilitator so that you can complete all exercises as best you can prior to the next session.

If You Are Doing an Integrity Makeover as Part of Being a Member of a 3D Integrity Circle: Bring your completed module to your next 3D Integrity Circle Meeting. Should you need any clarifications in order to complete these exercises after first reading the corresponding portions in The New IQ, either contact another member of your 3D Integrity Circle or post your question in the Makeover Mutual Support Forum. (For more about 3D Integrity Circles, click here.)

If You Are Doing an Integrity Makeover On Your Own: Should you need any clarifications, post your question on the Makeover Mutual Support Forum.


Assessments: Become clearer than you probably have ever been before about the anatomy of your Survival and Redemption Plans and about how strong or weak you are in each of the key life skills necessary for feeling fulfillment and embodying integrity (the Seven WisePassions).

Exercises: Make significant strides in further outgrowing your Survival and Redemption Plans and in upgrading each of your Seven WisePassions.

Preparation: If you are using your Makeover website membership in conjunction with an Integrity Makeover Facilitator, each module will prepare you to get the most out of each Makeover Facilitation session toy do with your facilitator. Sharing with your Facilitator your responses to each module will make it much easier for him/her to spot where you would most benefit from further assistance. Sharing them at least a few days before each Makeover Facilitation session can help your Facilitator discover the most beneficial areas to focus on together in your next makeover session. You will find a glossary of all the main terms used in your Makeover modules on the Makeover website.


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Should you be utilizing helping professionals of any kind, you are strongly encouraged to use these resources to collaborate more effectively with them. (Helping professionals include, but are not limited to, mainstream and alternative mental health and physical health care providers, certified wellness, life, executive, career and sports coaches, recovery programs, and religious/spiritual advisors.)

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I sincerely hope you find huge benefit in utilizing this material! And I thank you from the bottom of my heart for joining me in helping to spark the integrity revolution our world so deeply needs, today more than ever.

Wishing you many blessings on your journey through your Makeover,
Dr. David Gruder, PhD, DCEP

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